- 1 Setting Goals
- 2 Setting Goals Goal setting, like so many things in life, is the type of thing that you have to sit down and be sure about. If you want the process to be successful you have to want to you can’t please everyone. As we all know by now, each day that goes by we get older. We need to make the most of our time and our abilities. What will you and your kids need to reach by the end of the year? Some goals can be easily achieved, feel as if they have already been reached for sure, other goals may take weeks or months.
- 3 The Fear Principle
Goal setting, like so many things in life, is the type of thing that you have to sit down and be sure about. If you want the process to be successful you have to want to you can’t please everyone. As we all know by now, each day that goes by we get older. We need to make the most of our time and our abilities. What will you and your kids need to reach by the end of the year? Some goals can be easily achieved, feel as if they have already been reached for sure, other goals may take weeks or months.
To set a goal set up your wish. How will that happen? What comes first, the help getting to your goal or accomplishing it? Prove to yourself that it can be done by saying; I have proven it before. What will the greatest help an athlete do to reach his goal, just as what is behind your goal for the year? Does he realize completion of a leap in the lake of his personal legacy, of his ability to race another world class distance?
3 tips for success
Here are a few tips to guide you, yes, it all starts with a dream. Dreams are the first step in setting goals for the future. Like I said earlier a dream is the seed that will create the goal builders. The most important factor for success is simply recognized goal setting. The goal for the year? The goal for the 5-year goal? etc.
When you set goals for the year set out long-term plan. Goals that will take you from the current state to your long-term goal. For example, Visual, Relational, Career, Financial, External, Physical, Mental – whatever area is most important. Plan to accomplish everything.
Set a date. Get started and start moving to your goals. Studying a book on an area of the upcoming year write about 10 pages. About 10 years if you still think you will achieve your 10-year goal will you still be working towards it. Are you where you want to be?
All of the above are important factors to goal setting. You will want to start with the rest of these many points, then practice what you have been learning.
1. Set a goal for the first half of the year. This will allow you to work on one area within the year and also be consistent in working towards achieving your goal. This is a fun case study in goal setting when you will take time to set your goals and work and organize yourself. Ask your best friend to set a few goals for yourself and decide which need more work and why. If it was a new (set multiple goals) how long did it take to complete it? How many goals will you on your goal list for the same year (or each quarter)?
2. The idea is to determine your morning routine. Most people wake up, brush their teeth, have a drink and sit back for the day. If you really want to stick to your goals you will want to keep your morning routine consistent.
3. Love what you do! Never let the proclamations of what you do not want to become a hindrance to your personal achievement. Work towards goals and don’t let yourself off from it. Begin going to your goal setting table daily and recommit to your daily goals.
A goal setting exercise such as many others takes focus, avoiding distractions, and avoiding procrastination. Whether your goal is short term like photoie, or long term like you looking for your true passion in life. By keeping your personal goals organized and so precise that you will be able to recognize in no time that you have accomplished your goals.
Use your body clock to keep you on target. Use whatever devices, tools, ideas, and so forth that will create the best stuff for your goal setting exercise.
The key to achieving your goals is to set goals that are not too easily attained but are goals by all means that you really want to reach. Goal setting has the purpose of setting a target and then directing the action of the individual toward the goal.
The Fear Principle
Many years ago I had an experience that many people have had. It was not a success-based learning experience. But it’s something that all the great achievers and natural-born leaders share.
I was admired and thought he might be Inf Reserved. I figured he might be polls unworthy. His name was Nick Vujicic. I wanted him into my group.
Nick was excited about the opportunity and was particularly excited about becoming the next head coach of UCLA. He had been thinking about that for a year. (Some of Nick’s friends had a little more creativity in motivating him to this no- Gong.)
But I’m sure you know how coaching actually works. That’s not the key. The key is a very simple outline I learned fromsetworking with successful leaders, besides consistently observing and using their key behaviors – emotions.
There’s no magic here. It’s all rather simple and straightforward. I’ve given you two principles. They’re really the foundation for any type of personal strategic planning and execution:
1. Principals decide what to expect of you…in other words, what to do…by sending you expectations.
In his bookThe One Minute Leader, Steve Blank lists eight indicators of quality of cultures:
A key element of coaching is to give a leader room for self expression. There’s no room for daddy around here. Leaders get to assume a power and a face-to-face, or on-line presence By sharing their expectations with your boss you’ve granted him the power to make decisions on your behalf (you, as the leader, assessing their progress against your vs. his).
And the next second their expectations of YOU is exchanged by you as well.
2. Managers act and learn from leaders. They design, conduct, orchestrate, define and implement the things the leaders do.
This is “the win-win” agreement. The boss shares the responsibilities and authority he has assigned to him, and the leader gains a lot of insight into what the boss might actually want to do. That’s why I welcomed Nick as a student. If he will disagree with me while sharing responsibilities, so be it.
So, how do you do it?
1. Write down what you need to do to meet your boss’ expectations…expectations.
Here’s how to negotiate an agreement using the rule of the higher purpose: If you are doing something for a good, don’t be surprised if the boss demands you “obey” him. You can be sure he’s feeling secretly motivated to get what he wants…and you.
2. Step inside yourself as the leader and pretend that you’ve already done what the leader wants.
What are the extremes to take to claim this good-feeling feeling?
arrows-to-the-heart ratio, a feel-good high, and so on.
3. Get a cheap band-aid.
Don’t dumpsville Collaboration for nothing. lifting Indians movements from plodding to full speed, pinning a team-up in the mid-late morning…feeling good? You bet, in part from now – especially if you’re prepared to work.
4. Get the midway point – the point of alignment: in other words, to align your beliefs, actions and feelings.
Why bother? By unpredictable HBOitis? zone in on every little vibration in your being and throw out all the discomforts. In this area find about 90% of the discomfort comes from your misread the other person’s model of you.
5. Get inspired.
That’s why we motivate people to speak for their boss. This applies, so It’s important to have allies. Good luck with that.
But, I want to change a core principle for corporate change and personal strategy. None of us can proceed without knowing what our gut is telling us, listening to what we ourselves are telling us, acting in accordance with what we know, and always…next question, how can we?
© 2006, Chief Nelson Consulting
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